As strange as it may seem, it is possible to have a soul tie with the dead. The Biblical prescription for mourning was to be seven to thirty days (see Genesis 50:10 and Deut 34:8). After that, you were to put your grief behind you and go on. God knew that excessive and lasting grief would open one’s soul to heaviness, gloom and despair.
We’ve all heard stories of a heartbroken parent who, after a child’s death, keeps his room exactly like it was for many years. Such excessive grief brings heaviness and gloom to others in the house. Its as if the spirit of death were invited to remain.
The same thing can happen with women who have had an abortion. Even after they’ve asked and received forgiveness for the deed, guilt and shame often remain. This is generally an indication of a soul tie with the aborted child. Until and unless the soul tie is broken, the mother will be subject to bouts of depression and guilt; but when that bond is severed, they’re able to put it behind them once and for all, and live life free from the failure of their past.
Many of us have seen families where even though a death that happened years ago, the family still sets a place at the dinner table for that dead person, and no one living can set in that person place. One religious organization would not allow anyone to sit in the dead Bishops chair. This is not the will of God and this can open the place up to familiar spirits.
We have even heard of those that need deliverance with a family and their house. They all became demonically affected, because the sister kept talking to the dead brother until her son was attacked by an evil spirit counterfeiting the appearance of her dead brother.
All of this opens the door to delayed grief. Bondage in the area of dealing with holidays causes spirits of depression to harass you. In some cases the living loved one wishes to die themselves giving way to spirits of death wish, also an inability the go on with life.
When Moses died God told Joshua, “Joshua 1:2: Moses my servant is dead;now therefore arise, go over this Jordan”, which shows that after the death of a servant they are to move on with life and in their mission.
Eccl 9:5 -For the living know that they shall die: but the dead know not anything, neither have they any more reward; for the memory of them is forgotten.
2 Sam 12:20-23 Then David arose from the earth, and washed, and anointed himself and changed his apparel, and came into the house of the LORD, and worshipped: then he came to his ownhouse; and when he required, they set bread before him, and he did eat. Then said his servants unto him, What thing is this that thou hastdone? thou didst fast and weep for the child, while it was alive; but when the child was dead, thou didst rise and eatbread. And he said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether GOD will be gracious to me, that the child may live? But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? Can I bring himback again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.
2 Sam 19:4-6 David covered his face and cried with aloud voice, “O my son Absaom, OAbsalom, my son, my son!” And Joab came into the house, and said to the king, “You have shamed this day the faces of all your servants…… for I perceive that if Absalom had lived, and we all had died, then it would have pleased you well.”
2 Sam 12:23 But now he is dead,wherefore should I fast? can I bring himback again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.
Would you believe it’s not taught in the bible that our family members who died are in heaven now watching over you?
1 Tim 2:5 For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; KJV
What do you do when somebody dies?
You take time to mourn and then you move on. That is where you go when everything doesn’t turn out where you are. You move on to a place called Next.
Joshua 1:2, “Moses, my servant is dead, now therefore, arise and go over to Jordan.”
Your deceased relative never meant for you to die with them. They meant for you to live on. They don’t want you so grieved you can hardly work or function. They don’t want you so bound that at the anniversary of their death you go into depression for weeks.
I mention that when David’s baby was dying, David went on a fast, and mourned and cried out to God to save his child. David’s household wondered if they should tell him that the child had died for fear that he might go into a deeper depression. When they did tell him, David got up and washed his face, put on his attire and went about living again. David did what we all should learn to do when our loved ones die – mourn, grieve, and go on.
You have other family members, children, spouse, friends that need you to have your head together and not be dated – tied to someone who died long ago. Some people are dated by the last event that happened in their life whether positive or negative.
They begin walking in a deep depression and find out that it all started when so-and-so passed away. If at the death of a loved one you die too, you have a soul tie with a dead person. If it was a parent then every Mother’s Day or Father’s Day you’re all messed up. Your family is losing time with you because you have an evil soul tie with someone who is dead. Let them go. They are not in the grave anyway.
1 Cor 5:3 For I verily, as absent in body but present in spirit, have judged already, as though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed.
If they were saved they are absent from the body and present with the Lord. We could get deeper into theology, but that is not the point right now. My point is – live. You have an evil soul tie when you can’t let go of that person who died and continue living your life. If the person died 10 years ago and you’re acting like he just died last week, you need deliverance.
What may be confusing people is their interpretation of Hebrews 12:1, “Wherefore seeing we also are compasses about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easilybeset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.”
Ungodly grief leads to unbroken soul ties with the dead.
We are to release the dead to Jesus. The Bible pattern for mourning is that it be limited to several days (see Genesis 50:10 & Deuteronomy 34:8)
The funeral service is designed to ‘commit our loved ones to God’ and natural grieving is right, respectful and healthy.
Prolonged refusal to let, death do us part invites spirits of sorrow, grief, loneliness etc to take advantage of this behaviour.
- GRIEF DEFINED: (WEBSTER’S) – Emotional pain or distress from an extreme cause, as affliction or bereavement; deep sorrow or sadness;
- SORROW DEFINED: (WEBSTER’S) – Pain of mind from loss, disappointment, or calamity; grief, sadness; an incident causing distress or regret.
To those who have a longing in their heart to set the captive free, it must be understood that the emotions of grief and sorrow are not evil in themselves. But when manipulated by Satan, they can be used to cause a person untold hurt and pain. There is a need for believers to understand that when you are praying for someone with damaged emotions you’ll come across demonic bondage and very well may see strong demonic manifestations (meaning demons may act out violently or show some physical sign in the body. “Mk 9:20, Lu 4:35, 8:29, 9:42”).
A good worker should never look at every emotional change in a person’s life as a demonic manifestation or else you will cause the person you are trying to minister to more hurt than help. I have come in contact with a lot of people who needed deliverance and professional help and we as ministers need to be discerning of what stage is needed to bring the victim the best healing, God does use doctors, and counselors I suggest you find one born again not new aged or one who uses methods that are against biblical principles.
The possibility of the victim having been under medical treatment most of their life leaves the deliverance worker with the caution of being careful not to push them to fast off of medicine or give them advice that hurts more then helps. I teach that if you’re truly healed your doctor should be able to medically check you out and it shows up your healed, blind Bartimaeus, optometrist if he had one could check him out and he would have been just as healed.
SPIRITS OF GRIEF SETS IN WHEN MOURNING IS NOT ALLOWED PROPERLY.
GEN 23:2 And Sarah died in Kirjatharba; the same is Hebron in the land of Cannaan; and Abraham came to mourn for Sarah, and to weep for her.
- MOURN: – (caphad) to tear the hair and beat the breast, to feel or express grief.
I‘ve seen people bound by spirits of grief because they would not allow the tears of grief to come forth at the proper time. Even Jesus wept over Lazarus when he died; it’s possible that the weeping of Jesus over the death of Lazarus was a sign of both love for a friend and God’s way of healing the emotions, so that spirits of grief would not set in.
Those who try to be strong for everyone else during a funeral could be a potential victim of spirits of grief, because they are blocking the natural release of grief that will stop many pains later in life. Often, the people who are tormented by grief spirits for years after the death of a loved one, are those who do not release the grief by properly grieving and letting them go. Letting a dead loved one go does not mean that you have forsaken them to death but to their God and Father. Being strong is being able to release them to God.
KING DAVID LEARNED TO LET GO OF HIS LOVED ONE
2 Sam 12:15-18 – And Nathan departed unto his house. And the Lord struck the child that Uriah’s wife bare unto David, and it was very sick. David therefore besought God for the child; and David fasted, and went in, and lay all night upon the earth. And the elders of his house arose, and went to him, to raise him up from the earth: but he would not, neither did he eat bread with them. And it came to pass on the seventh day, that the child died. And the servants of David feared to tell him that the child was dead; for they said, Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spake unto him, and he would not hearken unto our voice: how will he then vex himself, if we tell him that the child is dead?
Here we note:
- David sought the Lord for the healing of the child, like many of us over our loved ones.
- He fasted and pulled on God for the healing but the child died.
- The servants wondered how will he then VEX HIMSELF.
Modern Language Bible 2SA 12:8 How may he harm himself when we tell him the child is dead.
Living Bible 2SA 12:8 What will he do to himself when we tell him the child is dead.
Revised Standard Bible 2SA 12:8 How then can we say to him the child is dead? He may do himself some harm.
2Sam 12:19-20 -But when David saw that his servants whispered, David perceived that the child was dead: therefore David said unto his servants, is the child dead? and they said, he is dead. Then David arose from the earth, and washed, and anointed himself, and changed his apparel, and came into the house of the Lord, and worshipped; then he came to his own house; and when he required, they set bread before him and he did eat.
We note here:
- David arose from the earth: lifted himself from the place of low degree.
- Washed and anointed himself: Put the cleansing power of God’s Spirit over the loss, grief, pain, and sorrow.
- Changed his apparel: Took off his mourning clothes and put on the whole Armour of God.
- Came into the house of God and Worshipped: David did not back away from God because of his loss, but moved closer to the Lord.
- Went to his house and he did eat bread: Returned to his place of Authority and Rest in God.
- Sat bread before him and he did eat: David was ready to live, not give up on life because of the loss of his loved one.
2SA 12:21-23 Then said his servants unto him, what thing is this that thou hast done? thou didst fast and weep for the child, while it was alive; but when the child was dead, thou didst rise and eat bread. And he said, while the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, who can tell whether God will be gracious to me, that the child may live? But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.
JESUS WEPT FOR LAZARUS
John 11:33-38 When Jesus therefore saw her weeping, and the Jews also weeping which came with her, he GROANED in the Spirit, and was TROUBLED. Jesus wept. Then said the Jews. Behold how he loved him! And some of them said, could not this man, which opened the eyes of the blind, have caused that even this man should not have died? Jesus therefore again groaning in himself cometh to the grave. It was a cave, and a stone sat upon it.
- GROANED (Embrimai) To have indignation: sigh with chagrin. This showed that Jesus hated death and all that it stood for, the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is Eternal Life.
- TROUBLED (Tarasso) To stir or agitate, being agitated because of death, is a natural God excepted reaction.
- JESUS WEPT (Dakruo) To shed tears: If Jesus wept what makes us think that we have to be so strong and not weep during bereavement. Jesus wept is a powerful statement to those who have lost loved ones.
There are so many people who don’t have the ability to CRY. When tears are not released during a time of pain, or heartache, this person is carrying in them a TIME BOMB that will go off some time later in life. I have delivered people who have not been able to cry and manifest extreme anger and emotional damage.
ANGER TOWARDS GOD OR THE ONE WHO DIED
The Spirit of Anger can set in a person’s life if they do not understand that being angry at death does not mean you are angry at God. In the ministry, I have seen people who are angry at God because a loved one dies, Satan is the one who steals, kills, and destroys but he loves to blame God for death and dying. Deliverance workers, be on the lookout for Spirits of Anger towards God or the person who died. If you have felt this, pray like this:
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I ask you to forgive me for being angry with god or the person who died. Lord, heal me of the hurt and pain of the loss of my loved one. I command the spirits of anger towards god, and towards my loved one to come out of me now. I also command spirits of bound and blocked trust in god because he let my loved one die to come out of me now, in the name of the lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
CONSULTING DEAD BIBLE AGAINST IT
Isaiah 8:19-20 ESV And when they say to you, “Inquire of the mediums and the necromancers who chirp and mutter,” should not a people inquire of their God? Should they inquire of the dead on behalf of the living? To the teaching and to the testimony! If they will not speak according to this word, it is because they have no dawn (light/truth).
Deuteronomy 18:10-13 English Standard Version (ESV) 10 There shall not be found among you anyone who burns his son or his daughter as an offering,[a] anyone who practices divination or tells fortunes or interprets omens, or a sorcerer 11 or a charmer or a medium or a necromancer or one who inquires of the dead, 12 for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord. And because of these abominations the Lord your God is driving them out before you. 13 You shall be blameless before the Lord your God,
Leviticus 19:31 – Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I [am] the LORD your God.
1 Chronicles 10:13-14 – So Saul died for his transgression which he committed against the LORD, [even] against the word of the LORD, which he kept not, and also for asking [counsel] of [one that had] a familiar spirit, to enquire [of it]; Matthew 24:24 – For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if [it were] possible, they shall deceive the very elect.
Deuteronomy 18:11 – Or a charmer, or a consulter with familiar spirits, or a wizard, or a necromancer.
Deuteronomy 18:12 – For all that do these things [are] an abomination unto the LORD: and because of these abominations the LORD thy God doth drive them out from before thee.
Micah 5:12 – And I will cut off witchcrafts out of thine hand; and thou shalt have no [more] soothsayers:
Deuteronomy 18:10 – There shall not be found among you [any one] that maketh his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, [or] that useth divination, [or] an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a witch,
Ecclesiastes 9:5 – For the living know that they shall die: but the dead know not any thing, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten.
KNOW YOUR ENEMY!!